Domestic Violence Against Men


Katherine Guido, Arts and Entertainment Journalist

1 in 4 men have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner. Most of these cases go unreported and therefore, their abusers receive no consequences. This is due to the pressure put on men by society to remain “strong” and doesn’t allow them to feel basic emotions. This brings up the question, how can we,as a whole fix this problem?

This issue was brought to light recently due to the Cardi B situation. If you’re unfamiliar with this, here’s a recap. Female rapper, Cardi B, admitted to drugging and robbing men back when she was a stripper in the Bronx, New York. She said she would invite men back to her hotel room where these events would take place. She claims, “Whether or not they were poor choices at the time, I did what I had to do to survive.” She also stated she had very limited options at the time and felt that these actions were necessary to make ends meet.

Of course there was backlash on social media. Twitter users brought up the fact that Bill Cosby was sent to jail for drugging and assaulting women back in 2018, how is this situation with Cardi any different? Let’s go into the statistics.

On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this adds up to more than 10 million women and men. 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe physical violence, for example, beating, burning, strangling by an intimate partner in their lifetime. In media such as the news or a form of social media, we hear about these cases against women, but rarely against men. What happens? Data taken from 2003 to 2012 by the National Crime Victimization Study, had  showed that men account for 24% of domestic violence survivors. As for the men that do report it, about 8% have been shot at, stabbed, or hit with a weapon.

Dr. Sarah Wallace from USW talks about why men don’t report their abusers, “They fear appearing unmanly, shame, embarrassment, and a failure to live up to masculine ideals.” She says that the men who seek help with this go to sessions where they discuss topics such as the role of masculinity and gender stereotypes in modern society. In doing this, she hopes to help validate their experiences so they can recognise that they can also be victims of abuse.

Wallace also shows that there has been around 713,000 reports of men being victims of domestic violence. “It begs the question how many more men are actually out there that are suffering in silence.”